Updated: May 29, 2022
Have you heard people speak about the writings of Paul in a negative way, suggesting that his writings are not biblical and therefore, should be disregarded? I have heard many of their reasons and we may touch on some of all of them, but for this study, our main focus will be on his writings about women. As I have mostly heard people say that Paul's writings to the church suggest that he had a great disdain for females. I have heard from women themselves that Paul's writings make them feel as if God hates them or like they are second class citizens to men or even the slaves of men. Other women state that they feel held back from their calling leaving them to feel spiritually oppressed. I will be using two versions for this study KJV & NAS.
I think there is a great misunderstanding of what Paul was saying because people fail to take in the whole picture; which would include WHO Paul was writing to, the customs, pagan ceremonies, false gods, and laws of those times. People also seem to only hone in on what Paul said and totally ignore older testament scriptures where Paul got his line of thinking from. I am going to try and put these scriptures into full context by explaining a bit of history for those times but first, we will look at the majority of Paul's writings that people seem to want to throw in the trash.
We need to keep in mind as we read that while Paul's letters were inspired by God that there were situations surrounding him that were not. The bulk of Paul's letters were obviously answering questions that had been asked of him by the churches that were dealing in that particular time period and with situations that had arose. Keep in mind going foreword that while the scriptures in our Bible give us most of the answers, we lack many of the questions.
A good example of this is found in 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 when Paul was asked about marriage. "Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. But because of sexual immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband." What Paul is saying is that it is better not to marry but because of uncontrolled sexual desires that some may have, it is better to take a spouse. The obvious reason is that sex outside of marriage is a sin. He goes on in verse 4 to say that in such a union, the woman's body belongs to her husband and the man's body belongs to his wife. He continues throughout this chapter to explain his point of view by stating that it is so that your devotion is to the Lord and does not need to be divided with a spouse.
Some scholars have also stated that the early church had the belief that it was easier to flee persecution if you were unmarried than if you had a spouse and children. But now, should we then look upon these scriptures and say that we should not marry? Was it not God himself who commanded us to go forth and multiply? This is also one of those places where some would argue that Paul gives advice against God's commandments. But we must observe here that Paul never said that God commanded. Paul was speaking his own mind and simply stating how an unmarried person can devote more time to God. You will notice that several times in scripture, Paul will say things like "I Paul say". In these instances, he is obviously stating his opinion, some opinions based upon interpretation of scripture and some based upon moral customs of that time. So pay attention.
WOMEN SHOULD COVER THEIR HEADS In the beginning of 1 Corinthians 11, Paul starts off by appreciating the congregation for keeping the "traditions". 11:2, "Now I praise you because you remember me in everything and hold firmly to the traditions, just as I handed them down to you." The word tradition comes from the Greek word "paradosis". This word means ordinances or Jewish law. This same word is used in both verses in Matthew 15:2-3, "Why do Your disciples break the tradition of the elders? For they do not wash their hands when they eat bread. And He answered and said to them, Why do you yourselves also break the commandment of God for the sake of your tradition ” This same word is also used in the following scriptures Matthew 15:6, Mark 7:3; 7:5; 7:8; 7:9, 7:13, Galatians 1:14, Colossians 2:8, 2 Thessalonians 2:15; 3:6. So it is not too far off to assume that Paul is going to continue his speech about traditions.
1 Corinthians 11:5-6, "Every woman who has her head uncovered while praying or prophesying disgraces her head, for it is one and the same as the woman whose head is shaved. For if a woman does not cover her head, have her also cut her hair off; however, if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, have her cover her head." Let me explain the history here. In these days and times, a woman who was caught in adultery would have her head shaved or cut short as punishment, therefore Paul knew as he wrote his letter that it was shameful for a woman to have her head shaved and he knew they would see it as being a disgrace as well.
1 Corinthians 11:7-10, "For a man should not have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake. Therefore the woman should have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels." You must understand what happened in Genesis 6 when the angels looked upon the women and saw that they were fair and left their heavenly place to commit a great atrocity against God by procreating with women causing a hybrid of giants, which lead to thousands of men being consumed as food for these giants, and causing all sorts of chaos within humanity. The head covering was the woman's statement to the angels that showed she was under the authority of the man and the man is under the authority of God, so "don't touch me". This puts the woman in a position where she is less likely to be attacked by satanic forces in the heavenly realm.
Then we see in 1 Corinthians 11:11-12, women being equal with man. "However, in the Lord, neither is woman independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as the woman originated from the man, so also the man has his birth through the woman; and all things originate from God." Paul then goes on to say in the next few verses that they should judge for themselves if a woman should have her head uncovered and he further states that "nature" not God, says that it is improper for a man to have long hair.
As we know, Samson had long hair. In fact, it was through Samson's hair that God gave him unbeatable strength. But again, I will point out that Paul never said that God said. It is my opinion from what I have read that Paul was speaking from the customs and modesty of those days, as he said that "nature states that it is improper for a man to have long hair". Therefore, there is not any contradictions here or is there any evidence that Paul was belittling women.
As our society drifts further into a Babylonian abyss, we become more and more indoctrinated with evil where the lines between male and female have become fluid. It's the enemy's intent to lead us astray, out into the open where demons can attack. Laws for women were not to oppress or enslave them but to protect them. We must understand that God created everything with a specific function in mind. Just as all the creepy crawlers, land animals, animals of the air and the creatures of the sea were created with a purpose, so were men and women. When you step out of the world and see women through the eyes of God, you begin to realize that our strengths and weaknesses that are within both genders were designed to complement each other and work together in perfection.
WOMEN ARE TO KEEP QUIET 1 Corinthians 14:33-35, "God is not a God of confusion, but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints. Let your women keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says. If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is improper for a woman to speak in church." Some translations say that "it is a shame for women to speak in church". Paul goes on to ask if the word of God only came to them? He further states that, "If anyone thinks that he is a prophet or spiritual, let him recognize that the things which I write to you are the Lord’s commandment." and ends with, "Therefore, my brothers and sisters, earnestly desire to prophesy, and do not forbid speaking in tongues. But all things must be done properly and in an orderly way."
There are several parts of this that we are going to look at. First, the word that is translated improper/shameful is the word aischros and it means filthy or dishonor. The word translated as silent is the word Sigao and actually means to keep silent or to hold ones peace. Which this makes perfect sense from what scholars have concluded about this letter being about keeping peace and order. We are going to look more on the women keeping quiet matter in a moment but lets look at another verse first.
Let's look into what God says about a women's place, which may give some more understanding of where Paul was coming from when he asked if the word of God came only to them. Lets go back to Genesis 3:6, "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and your desire shall be to your husband, and he shall rule over you." As we see woman had no authority over her until the fall. It was then that men were instructed to have this authority over his own household and over his own wife but why? Its is obvious that God's intent was not to enslave the woman to her husband but to keep order in the household. Scripture further says that woman was created as a help mate for the man, Genesis 2:18.
We know that in Ephesians 5:25-30, which was also written by Paul, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; or no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are parts of His body."
We must understand first and foremost that the Bible is to be used for spiritual development. It is our armor and our instruction manual as soldiers for Christ. So how should we view these things? Emmanuel Swedenborg once said that women are symbols for goodness, love, and desire. Men are symbols for truth and intellect. Which makes a lot of sense if you have heard the saying that men and women think different. Science has proven this to be true. Women will often think with their heart, while men will think with their brain and sometimes by what he desires. It was Eve who had a heart for the fruit and corrupted Adam's thinking through his desire for her. We see this with Samson & Delilah and with David & Bathsheba, and many more throughout scripture of women corrupting the thoughts of men.
Think about it? What was Adam's excuse to God for eating the forbidden fruit? Genesis 3:12, "the man said, The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat." This is when God put man in charge of being the head of his household. Though some scholars say that it was the way God had intended it to be from the beginning, hence, it was Adam that named all the animals. However, we also see in the Old Testament that men regarded women as something to be weary of, when in fact, it was their desires for women that got them into trouble. There are many places in scriptures that things would have turned out better had men been in charge with their brains and had not given in to their desires.
We are going to look at a similar verse written by Paul to Timothy. But to get a better understanding of the letter, lets go to the beginning and read through the greeting to Timothy. 1 Timothy 1:2-7, "To Timothy, my true son in the faith: Grace, mercy, and peace from God the Father and Christ Yeshua our Lord. Just as I urged you upon my departure for Macedonia, to remain on at Ephesus so that you would instruct certain people not to teach strange doctrines, nor to pay attention to myths and endless genealogies, which give rise to useless speculation rather than advance the plan of God, which is by faith, so I urge you now. But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart, from a good conscience, and from a sincere faith. Some people have strayed from these things and have turned aside to fruitless discussion, wanting to be teachers of the Law, even though they do not understand either what they are saying or the matters about which they make confident assertions."
As we see thus far, Timothy was to stay to encourage the people to NOT teach STRANGE doctrines.
Paul then starts off his instructions in 1 Timothy 2:8-10, "Therefore I want the men in every place to pray, lifting up holy hands, without anger and dispute. Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or expensive apparel, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness."
Then we see at 1 Timothy 2:11-14, "A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a wrongdoer."
Some Bible scholars are teaching that the goddess Diana had a stronghold on some of the converted women of those days. In the cult of Diana, it was the woman who had authority because it was taught that woman was created first. So there seems to be some spiritual correlation with which gender is in charge based on who was created first. But keep in mind that Satan and his demonic forces like to take what God meant for good and corrupt it with evil. So it seems that Paul was correcting this error when he made the statement that man came first.
Secondly, in the churches of those days, men and women did not sit together but were separated. Women would often yell across the church to their husbands to ask them questions or make statements, which was causing a lot of confusion during the church service. From all this, we can get a better picture of all the chaos that led to Paul writing his letters.
Paul wrote these things concerning gender roles and women keeping quiet in the church to keep order. He was also affirming the order in which God Himself had placed upon men and women. And as you will see, by not understanding this crucial bit of information, one can often conclude that Paul hates women or in the other verses that we will look at, that Paul contradicts himself. Now, my fellow females, do not allow yourselves to become angry or disheartened, we do have a place in the body of Christ and we can be joined in with the ministry. We all have a purpose. To understand this lets look at the women under Paul and their roles.
WOMEN UNDER PAUL Paul understood that women play just as important of a role in the body of Christ as the man does. In Galatians 3:26-29, Paul said, "For you are all sons and daughters of God through faith in Christ Yeshua. For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Yeshua. And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s descendants, heirs according to promise."
Romans 16:1-2, "I commend to you Phebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea: That you receive her in the Lord, in a manner of the saints, and that you assist her in whatsoever business she has need of you: for she has been a helper of many, and of myself also." It is hard to know exactly what Phebe's role was from just reading this scripture but many scholars agree that she was the one who was bringing the letter to the church. And as it was custom at that time, she would have been the one to read the letter to the church and to answer any questions pertaining to the letter.
Many scholars also believe that she played the role of a deacon. This is not just a theory but from the word that was translated "servant", which is diakonos. This word is a masculine pronoun and means to execute the commands of another or to care for the poor. This same word has been translated as deacon, minister, and servant. So while Phebe was not the head of the church or a teacher, she was not remaining silent in the church but spoke in an orderly fashion, just as the female prophets would have.
Romans 16:3-5, "Greet Priscilla and Aquila, my fellow workers in Christ Yeshua, who risked their own necks for my life, to whom not only do I give thanks, but also all the churches of the Gentiles; also greet the church that is in their house." So Priscilla and Aquila had a church in their home and these are the same two that in Acts 18:24-26, we read "And a certain Jew named Apollos, born at Alexandria, an eloquent man, and mighty in the scriptures, came to Ephesus. This man was instructed in the way of the Lord; and being fervent in the spirit, he spake and taught diligently the things of the Lord, knowing only the baptism of John. And he began to speak boldly in the synagogue: whom when Aquila and Priscilla had heard, they took him unto them, and expounded unto him the way of God more perfectly."
So here we have a husband and a wife, both male and female teaching a man. Scripture that was written by Paul says that Apollos had been teaching the little he knew from the Baptism of John. Back in Romans, Paul spoke very highly of them even though he said in letters to other churches that he did not permit a woman to teach. So is Paul contradicting himself as some claim? My answer would be a hard no. I will explain at the end and it will make perfect sense.
Romans 16:6, "Greet Mary, who bestowed much labor on us." Again, we see another female who was in the ministry alongside of Paul. I wonder how she could put any labor on the men if her only job is to sit down and be quiet and only ask her husband? Which I am assuming that the women who had no husband mentioned were not married by reason of virtue or by being widowed. These women were obviously not only ministering to other females and children but it is clear that they were working in the ministry with the men.
Acts 21:8-9, "The next day we that were of Paul's company departed, and came unto Caesar-ea: and we entered in to the house of Philip the evangelist, which was one of the seven; and abode with him. And the same man had four daughters, virgins, which did prophesy." These were four young women who were prophesying to men. They were speaking what they heard from God and not asking the men to teach them or asking their father who was an evangelist, if they could speak.
Lets compare this to one of the four gospels when Christ was yet a child. Luke 2:36-38, "There was one Anna, a prophetess, the daughter of Phanuel, of the tribe of Aser: she was of a great age, and had lived with an husband seven years from her virginity; And she was a widow of about fourscore and four years, which departed not from the temple, but served God with fastings and prayers night and day. And she coming in that instant gave thanks likewise unto the Lord, and spake of him to all them that looked for redemption in Jerusalem." Notice that while she had been a virgin for seven years after marriage, she was no longer a virgin. She was a prophetess who went about and spoke to not just other females and children, but to everyone the words that God had spoken to her.
A FEMALE'S PLACE IN SCRIPTURE These next few verses are actually quoting the prophet Joel from the old testament. Acts 2:16-18, "But this is that which was spoken by the prophet Joel; And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams: And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy:" Here we see that even as far back as the old testament, females were seen as having a use and a place in ministering God's kingdom on earth to everyone.
Lets look back at Exodus 7:1, "Then the LORD said to Moses, “See, I have made you as God to Pharaoh, and your brother Aaron shall be your prophet." Many wolves have devoured this verse to make a twisted statement that we are little gods. But this is not what God was saying. God was saying that he was setting Moses above Pharaoh and that Aaron his brother would be his mouth piece. The same way God was above Moses and Moses was God's mouth piece.
When God says that even your daughters and handmaids will prophesy, he is saying that even the females will be his mouth piece. Even the women of the church would speak what they hear from the spirit of God.
PURPOSE OF PROPHESYING 1 Corinthians 14:1-4, "Pursue love, yet earnestly desire spiritual gifts, but especially that you may prophesy. For the one who speaks in a tongue does not speak to people, but to God; for no one understands, but in his spirit he speaks mysteries. But the one who prophesies speaks to people for edification, exhortation, and consolation. The one who speaks in a tongue edifies himself; but the one who prophesies edifies the church." Lets look at a few definitions to understanding what is so great about prophesying.
Edifies: To instruct or teach Exhortations: To emphatically urge someone to do something Consolation: To comfort or alleviate a person's grief or stress
So according to Paul, the purpose of prophesying speaks unto men to teach, emphatically urges them to do something, and comforts their grief and stress. But wait? Women are not to teach men but to sit quietly and only ask their husbands? This is the confusion you get when you only look at a few verses and take them out of the context in which they were spoken. By adhering to keeping women quiet, you lose the reward of hearing what God may speak to them or what the spirit may teach you through them but again, all things must be done in an orderly fashion because God is not a God of confusion.
Hebrews 4:12, "For the word of God is living and active, and sharper than any two-edged sword, even penetrating as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart." The word of God seems pretty powerful, so would it be less powerful or weakened if spoken by a woman to a man?
WOMEN IN THE TIME OF CHRIST In John 4:7-27, Christ meets the Samaritan woman at the well and he asks her for water and tells her if she knew who asked her that she would ask of him. He tells her to go call her husband and she says that she has no husband. Christ tells her that she spoke truthfully for she has had many husbands and even he who she is with now is not her husband. He then reveals to her who he is and then in verses 28-29, "The woman then left her water pot, and went her way into the city, and said to the men, Come, see a man, which told me all things that ever I did: is not this the Christ?"
Why did Christ not instruct her to only go speak to the women and children? This scripture says that she went and told the men. True she was not teaching but neither was she prophesying. She was testifying.
We also read in Luke 24:1-12 about the women who went to our savior's tomb and found it empty. There were two angels standing by them who asked why they seek the living among the dead. The women then went and testified to the apostles, who were men that Christ was not in his tomb. The men did not believe them and ran to the tomb to see for themselves. Again, we see women being used to speak to men.
IN CONCLUSION If we look back at the very beginning of Paul's letter to the church at Corinth, we read 1 Corinthians 1:11-15, "For I have been informed concerning you, my brothers and sisters, by Chloe’s people, that there are quarrels among you. Now I mean this, that each one of you is saying, I am with Paul, or I am with Apollos, (the one that was taught by Priscilla & Aquila) or I am with Cephas, or I am with Christ. Has Christ been divided? Paul was not crucified for you, was he? Or were you baptized in the name of Paul? I am thankful that I baptized none of you except Crispus and Gaius, so that no one would say you were baptized in my name!"
It is apparent from Paul's opening statement that this church was way off course to the point that they were arguing over who it was that redeemed them. So it is no wonder why he said for the women to be quiet. He also wrote to Timothy and said that HE does not permit a woman to teach. So let me explain this all to you from what we have seen in scripture.
First and most importantly, you see that Paul esteemed women very highly and even used them in his ministry. Paul did not contradict himself as even the old testament agrees that Men are to be over their wives. All who think this is cruel or enslavement has a warped understanding of God's mindset. As I have said before, he created everything to work in perfect harmony and most of what God ordained for women is for our protection and to keep order and peace.
We must understand that in Genesis and many other scriptures, a man was to rule over his wife, not other women; Paul was reiterating this in his writings. Keep in mind that Adam and Eve were espoused to one another. We also look at how some scholars debate about the apostle Junia being a female and not a male. The scripture does say that Junia was Paul's fellow inmate, however, in biblical times, it was not uncommon for men and women to be in the same cell together, which led to many sexual assaults and sexual immorality. Both sides make very strong arguments in the debates concerning the fact around this topic, which makes it difficult to make a call on this either way. The Weymouth translation of 1903 was the earliest translation that assumed Junia as being female, other translations soon followed.
In biblical times, an apostle was more like what we today would call an evangelist and they would spread the gospel to other countries or lands that had not heard of Christ. They would also plant churches, leaving someone else in charge of the church, as they moved forward into uncharted territories. We also know that there were women who held church in their homes, we know that Patricia and her husband had a church base home and it appears from scripture that they both taught. We also know from scripture in Acts 12:12 that there was a church being held in Mary's home, the mother of John. Also in Colossians 4:15. The KJV has Nymphas down as a male but the origin of the name is feminine and many scholars and several other translations agree that Nymphas was female. In those days they would not have named a female Joseph or a male Sue. We see again in Philemon 1:2 both a female and male, most likely husband and wife, are named as having church in their home.
We know that all the Levite priests were male, as well as the twelve disciples of Christ. We also see that the most famous books were written by male prophets. Look at Isaiah, Ezekiel, Jeremiah, Daniel, & Joel, just to list a few. But did you know that Deborah in the book of Judges was not only a prophetess but also a judge, which meant she ruled over men. If her role was out of order, why did God not direct her to not be a judge? We see another female prophet in Exodus 15:20 named Miriam who lead the women in song and dance in praise to God.
Further, in the new testament, we see a female prophetess named Anna, who prophesied to both men and women. Paul visited and listened to four female prophetess that were young girls. We seen scripture how in the end times both daughters and handmaidens will prophesy. It is widely believed that Christ had several women who followed him and his disciples wherever they went. We know they obviously were testifying to not only their own miracles but the miracles they had witnessed. Let's not forget about Priscilla who along beside her husband, Aquila, taught the man name Apollo. There were several other women who held church in their homes that included both male and females, but for the sake of the length of this study, I will leave that research up to the reader. Now lets look at some last verses here:
Titus 2:3-5, "Older men are to be temperate, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored." Again we see that women should be subject (under the authority) of her husband, not of every man. Several scripture
specifically say that a husband is over his wife and his children. Older women should be role models for the younger women and encourage them to submit to their husbands and care for him. Today this seems like such an obscene way of life. I do not understand why women today see this as slavery. No where in the Bible does God command man to take a wife as a slave.
1 Timothy 5:17, "The elders who lead well are to be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard at preaching and teaching. For the Scripture says, “YOU SHALL NOT MUZZLE THE OX WHILE IT IS THRESHING,” and “The laborer is worthy of his wages.” The word elders is from the word "presbyteros". It means advanced in age (both male & female), a senior, fore-fathers, and the head of a church.
As we have seen, Paul was not a misogynist when it came to women. He used women in his ministry and even told how some taught men. We have seen how in the time of Christ and of Paul, women not only testified but they prophesied to men. I will say it again, Paul was not contradictory. The churches he wrote to were so dysfunctional that they needed order. Example, as parents, if you have a child who has issues minding, you may tighten the rules a bit until that child proves that he/she can comply within the boundaries which you have set for them. This is in a sense what Paul was doing.
Some teachers say that the biblical women who were over the men were the exception, not the rule. So if it was the exception, then are there not yet “exceptions” today? In a world where evil is hailed as good and good is shamed as evil; in a world where the men who are called, turn and run from God or become wolves in sheep's clothing for the love of money. Christ said that there was not enough laborers, “Therefore said he unto them, The harvest truly is great, but the laborers are few: pray you therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he would send forth laborers into his harvest.” Be weary and remain vigilant in prayer because there are even female wolves roaming about. But if God should send a female, should you turn your ear away?
We can look at the letter in 2 John, it was clearly written to a woman. Yet there are men today who firmly believe that God put ALL women under subjection to them based on a few letters Paul wrote to the churches that were in confusion and a chaotic uproar. And in doing so, they twist the verses where God stated that a man was over his wife and his children to mean that all men have authority over all women. This would put every man over every other mans wife and children, which would cause chaos. As the saying goes, too many kings and not enough thrones.
So the female preacher you listen to, does she have a husband whom she subjects herself to? Is she a role model to the younger women and does she encourage them to love their husbands? Does she speak the truth of the gospel? Then hear her. Bottom line is that women can speak in church if they do so in an orderly fashion. They can testify, they can prophesy, they can read scripture, they can be deacons, they can teach children, teach women, and evangelize.
Genesis 1:27, "So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them." God created both genders and both genders are to go forth into the world and tell the gospel to everyone. I will say it again and again that YES, women are to be subjected to their husbands but if God tells you to speak the gospel to a lost soul, you ought not to turn away because that lost soul is a male and you are a female. There are many scenarios such as health care, where you would be violating HIPPA if you brought a male in from your church or from home. And in this world we live in, your male co-worker is not necessarily going to be a Christian. In fact, in this present age we are living, they may very well report you for spreading hate or "forcing" your faith on someone. Even if that dying male soul desires to hear it and be transformed and comforted by it.
We are to live in peace and order because God is not a God of Chaos. This order starts in the home with children respecting their parents and the man being the head of the household. Yes, God is the head of man and man the head of woman, but woman does not need to go to man to intercede for us or to speak to God on our behalf. Sadly, there are many misogynist teachers/preachers today that would have you believe it. Today, women have equal access to God through Christ, just as our male counterparts.