We live in a society where breaking, extorting, and distorting the identity of women has become an achievement. The brokenness within young girls, seeking a warped sense of love and affection, has lead to a whole other source of depraved immorality. How did we get here and can the women of the faith be beacon of light to help young women heal?
Titus 2:3-5, “The older women should behave in a manner of holiness, not false accusers, not given to too much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God not be blasphemed.”
Women of God, we can do our part by setting good examples for the younger women. Our society has become so far removed from God's authority that it has brought chaos and divisions within the home. Women have been taught since the 50s and 60s that being in subjection to your husband is like being his slave, it is not. God never intended or designed us to be a man's slave. We are our husband's help mates, and he is by God's design, head of the household. Together, we are one.
But because of our new, removed from God, way of thinking, many men have become docile to women. On the other hand, many women have felt abandoned or alone in a marriage, because there is no leadership. Most married couples cannot tell you why they are falling apart from one another, but it would not surprise me to find that it was because the roles of the world are being fulfilled, in place of our designed created roles.
I am not saying that women should not work or have careers, if there is a necessity for them to or if that is what they choose to do. I am speaking to the life inside the home and inside the marriage.
And no, I am not for convincing women to stay in an unhealthy abusive relationship, or one where there is substance abuse. But many marriages dissolve, not because of abuse, but because of irreconcilable differences.
Timothy was told in 1 Timothy 4:12 to not let anyone look down on him because he was young, but to set a good example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.
Christ said in John 13:15, “I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.”
In Matthew 5:16, “In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”
1 Corinthians 1:11, “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.”
Though we are not to blame for the sins of others, we may be held accountable for the sinful, ungodly advice we give, or the example we show, especially if we ourselves are not ignorant, but know better.
Truth is that Christ is our example that we should all strive to follow.
Ladies of God, we should also be teaching this younger generation of women about modesty.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 tells us that we our not our own, but our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and that we belong to God. Therefore we should glorify God in our body and in our spirit.
Romans 12:2, “Do not be conformed to this world: but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is the good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
1 Timothy 2:9-10, “Likewise, women should adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness (reverence, respect) and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the things they do.”
Women, we should be more concerned with the inner beauty than we are with the outer beauty. This does not mean that you cannot wear makeup or jewelry, there are many reasons that are not evil, proud, or malicious for which women do. But keep a check on your heart and do not over do it.
Do not over indulge yourselves in it, to the point you become obsessed with your beauty. In Ezekiel 28:17, The king of Tyre was being compared to Satan, and it was said of him that “he was proud because of his beauty, and that he corrupted his wisdom, for the sake of his splendor.”
This shows us what being boastful or proud about being beautiful does, and how it can over take us, and eventually separate us from God.
Dress, as a godly woman would dress, with modesty. Do not show that which is meant for your husband. Do not dress in a way that would seduce men. Keep your headlights covered and your trunk concealed.
Matthew 18:7, “What sorrow awaits the world because it tempts people to sin. Temptations are inevitable, but sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting.”
We were created to attract men, but we ought not to walk about the earth, dressed in ways that tempt those who are not our husbands, we also should not act or joke in seductive manners.
Proverbs 11:22, “A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig's snout.”
Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.”
If we are really the women of God that we profess to be, then we have a duty to be an example to the younger women, and the new babes in Christ.